Being a single/no-boyfriend-since-birth girl in this generation full of flings and no-biggie relationships is undoubtedly an issue. I mean, it should not be, but why the hell are we making a big deal out of it?
I’ve been existing for almost 21 years now and believe me or not, I’ve never had any romantic relationships before. I’ve had crushes, the ones that make your heart skip a beat whenever they’re around, but that all ends there.
Just glances. Casual conversations. Absolutely zero commitment.
Picture this scene. A girl is peacefully having her me-time moment while sitting alone on a bench. Next to her, a lovely couple sits side-by-side, enjoying each other’s company.
A person in-a-relationship’s POV:
“Oh, the world must seem so lonely for her without a lover. I feel sad for the girl!”
The ‘lonely’ girl’s POV:
“Aaaaahhhh. I love the trees, the sunlight, the air I breathe, and oh, look at that cute little baby! How lovely!”
Ladies and gentlemen, you can be 100% happy even without a lover. Well, I must admit, there are times when I long for someone’s attention but that doesn’t necessarily mean that I need to be in a relationship.
Wanna know why? I listed down my top three reasons on why you shouldn’t be worried, not even for a little bit, if you haven’t found yourself in a romantic relationship yet.
1. You’re surrounded by gorgeous, strong, and awesome people.
This may sound cliché but, really, who needs a boyfriend when you have friends?! Althroughout my 20 years of existence, I’ve been contented with my small circle of friends. Here’s a pro-tip. One doesn’t really need a large group of friends. Build connections, sure, but you only need like two to three loyal friends who will surely stick with you until the end. You just have to choose carefully.
Besides, being single is far from boring when you have friends who share the same mindset as you.
2. You have all the time in the world to discover who you really are.
This one’s proven and tested, friends.
I am not saying that being in a romantic relationship distracts you from knowing your potentials but, all the time that you have is for you and you alone. You’ll get to know what you really want, make plans for yourself in the future, and discover things you never knew before!
3. Time molds you to be a better person when the perfect moment finally comes.
Being in a relationship in your 20s versus when you’re in highschool makes a large difference. The way you think 5 years ago is somehow different from the way you are looking at things now.
In highschool, I was taught that love is a choice, and that there’s a thin line between loving someone and being infatuated by them. Of course, I didn’t understand a single thing about all of that.
Love to me were the protests of butterflies inside my stomach whenever this person’s around. Love was the feeling of wanting to see this person every hour of everyday. Love was the non-stop talking, and the cheesy jokes in between. That was love to me.
20 years later, I found out that love is nothing but a choice. It isn’t a feeling, because feelings come and go. Love doesn’t. Love comes, and it stays. I’ve read too much articles about successful and failed marriages to stop thinking that someday, this person will sweep me off my feet and we’ll finally live happily ever after.
Time did that.
And when the perfect moment comes, I will be whole and strong. I will make the right choices, and love will finally meet me.
So stop worrying about what others have to say about your relationship status, and just continue what you’re doing.
I’m out for now,